In a conversation the other night, a lovely divorced lady said that she didn’t have a new man because she didn’t feel she was deserving of being treated like she was special. It’s a common thing, though not many people admit they feel this way.
I don’t usually talk in-depth about my current relationship, but that conversation prompted me to share with you how I came to realise that finding love again simply meant removing the mental blocks that make you believe you can’t have, or don’t deserve what it is you truly want.
I love my story, and hope you will too. It still fills me with gratitude and awe to this day to have found someone so right for me after such miserable heartbreak. I hope it will inspire other to have faith, listen to their hearts, and let go of the past so that they are in a place where new love cannot fail to be magnetised to them.
So here it is…… Continue reading “Hard work and Cosmic Ordering: my story of finding love again”
It’s that time of year that brings out a mix of the true romantics, the annual big-gesture- makers, and the cynics to have their say on love.
I am one of those in awe of true love and happy relationships; I adore romance, yet I can take or leave Valentine’s day. But I am not cynical of it. As far I as I’m concerned, if something promotes people being good to each other it is wonderful, even if it is a commercial money spinner.
Continue reading “Why Valentine’s day is for the broken-hearted too”
I thought you ought to hear that!
When I received a text message yesterday, telling me what a great job I was doing for my children, it brought tears to my eyes. So this is for those who have been left holding the baby, to congratulate you and remind you of the great job you are also doing.
Continue reading “you are a wonderful single parent!”
Today I sat with my two eldest children and began a new New Years Eve tradition. We took a huge sheet of paper and on one side wrote “Thank you 2012 for…” and listed all the things we enjoyed and appreciated about the past year. It was heart-warming to see their responses, it showed me how happy and thriving my children are despite the upheaval of divorce in their young lives.
We then went on to write a wish list for 2013 on the other side of the page.
Continue reading “Happy 2013, think like a child, dream big!”
If someone could look into the future and give you all the answers, what questions would you want to ask?
Continue reading “What do you want to know the most?”
Just sit quietly and ask yourself
“What if I choose to be ok with this break up?“.
Continue reading “A simple, empowering question”
Hello and welcome!
What if your broken heart was the best thing to ever happen to you?
Does it feel too soon to imagine that? Do you believe that it’s even possible?
In the beginning, I couldn’t see beyond my grief. Devastated at the end of my marriage; unable to believe that my husband was telling me it was over; betrayed by his affair and overwhelmed at being a single mother of three small children. I didn’t know how I would ever be ok again.
But I can truly, hand on heart, say that am glad that it happened. Because today my life is more wonderful than it ever would have been had I stayed married to him
So, welcome to Break Up and Shine! It’s a place where I share my story, healing experiences, words of wisdom and support for anyone going through it right now.
If your break-up is very recent for you, well done for getting up and facing the day. I know the strength that it takes.
If it’s been a while but your life still doesn’t seem to be moving on from the break-up, that’s completely normal; things start to get so much better as your perspective shifts.
You are not alone and it WILL be ok.