Got to be real

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It’s been a long while since I last posted here; almost 6 months! When I stopped feeling guilty, lazy, or like I was letting people down, I realised that that’s ok. I’ve really missed writing, but when life takes over, or when the blog is not calling me, I can’t force it. So this post is dedicated to being true, and thank you to those still reading.

It’s important for me to share today because sometimes the most uncomfortable things are the things which will help us most. Healing from break-up means looking at the pain and acknowledging it, as well as being positive and striving to move beyond it.

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Share: Give and Get Support

butterfly.jpgRelationship break-up is probably one of the most common life crises there is, but that doesn’t make it any less devastating when it happens to you. One of the positives that can come from a painful experience is that, as you heal from it, you have the opportunity to help others going through a similar ordeal.

I want to share readers’ positive stories, so that anyone feeling in the depths of despair right now, can see that there is hope of a happier future.

If you would like to share your story, please contact me on the Get In Touch page. If you would like your story to remain anonymous that’s fine, just let me know and I won’t print your name.

hf_logo[1] I have also started a ‘Break Up and Shine’ group over on the wonderful social networking site Her Future. Please come along to ask advice, seek support or offer inspiration. You will need to sign up to the site in order to join in the forum, but it is a wonderful supportive community for women looking to be inspired in all aspects of life.

Although the Her Future forum is only open to women, anybody wanting to share resources, or ask for support is welcome to comment on my Share page.

Looking forward to hearing from you!

Marissa ♥

you are a wonderful single parent!

dear mummy

I thought you ought to hear that!

When I received a text message yesterday, telling me what a great job I was doing for my children, it brought tears to my eyes. So this is for those who have been left holding the baby, to congratulate you and remind you of the great job you are also doing.

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Happy 2013, think like a child, dream big!

butterfly breakupandshine4Today I sat with my two eldest children and began a new New Years Eve tradition. We took a huge sheet of paper and on one side wrote “Thank you 2012 for…” and listed all the things we enjoyed and appreciated about the past year. It was heart-warming to see their responses, it showed me how happy and thriving my children are despite the upheaval of divorce in their young lives.

We then went on to write a wish list for 2013 on the other side of the page.

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butterfly breakupandshine4  Hello and welcome!

Are you suffering the unique yet universal pain that is The End of a Relationship?

If it’s very recent for you, well done for getting up and facing the day. I know the strength that it takes.

If it’s been a while but your life still doesn’t seem to be moving on from the break up, that’s completely normal. 

Thank you for being here and I truly hope that Break Up and Shine will help you.

So…

What if you could make the heartbreak disappear?

What if, very soon, you could look back at the pain you feel at the moment, and be grateful for what it has made you become?

What if you could see this divorce as the best thing that ever happened to you?

Does it feel too soon to imagine that? Do you believe that it’s even possible? Because didn’t believe it six years ago. I was where you may be now. Devastated at the end of my marriage. Unable to believe that my husband was telling me it was over; betrayed by his affair and overwhelmed at being a single mother of three small children. I didn’t know how I would ever be ok again.

But I can truly, hand on heart, say that am glad that it happened. Because today my life is more wonderful than it ever would have been had I stayed married to him.

So welcome to Break Up and Shine! It’s a place where I share my story, healing experience, words of wisdom and support for anyone going through it right now.

You are not alone and it WILL be ok.

Marissa  ♥